Conversation flowed. That's not just because we were speaking English because actually we talked a lot in Castellano so that Angie who is from Honduras could join in. I thought about how many awful and awkward dinners I have sat through, not understanding, not feeling able to speak from a mixture of language deficiency and shyness. I noticed how we all tried to make sure everyone was joining in and I wondered why this doesn't happen more often to me.
What can help you feel comfortable in a multi-language dinner table?
- feeling you are liked
- feeling you are welcome
- feeling people are interested in you
- smiling and being smiled at
- having eye contact even when language is faltering
- being listened to as well as listening....ie patience
- an atmosphere of love and generosity
Last night was the revetlla of Sant Joan. We had a barbeque here under the stars, listening to distant fireworks and music, eating lovely food by candlelight and feeling relaxed enough to admit that we were too tired to stay up all night or even until sunrise.
Here is a wonderful blog post by a Norwegian woman who lives in Barcelona. She explains all about the celebration and I think it is better to send you over there rather than attempt to say anything new myself!